If He Insists That You Work…

If He Insists That You Work…

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Once, when asked about her life, former First Lady Barbara Bush said,
“I married well.” Is it wrong to want to marry well? Ladies, it’s all about survival – and it’s all about what you will be able to do for your children. Marry well, and you will never have to fear the basic survival issues, such as illness and unemployment – threats that single women (especially single mothers) have to face every day.
Mother always said, “You can just as easily love a rich man as a poor man.” Mother was right.
But what makes a man rich? Richness comes in many forms. Another word for riches is “abundance.” Life can be abundant in many ways. A relationship can be abundant in love, in trust, in affection, in fun, and in respect. Marrying your best friend is a sure way to an abundant emotional life.
What is it about wealth and abundance that make these things so appealing to so many of us? Take the time to think about this before you proceed on your journey to find a wealthy mate.
Abundance means security.
We have security when we no longer have to worry how we will get the money for our basic needs and wants.
We have security when our life is not dependent upon having and keeping a job – especially not a job we dread going to every day.
We have security when there is more than enough money to take care of us, now and in the future.
We have security when we know that our children will not have to live in impoverished neighborhoods and be exposed to bad influences.
It is not wrong to want to have money. It is not wrong to want to marry someone who handles his or her money prudently. Nor is it unusual, whether you are rich or not, to want to marry someone who is financially secure. No one wants to get romantically involved with someone with chronic problems with money – gambling, debt, overspending, risktaking. These things can ruin a marriage or relationship faster than anything.
However, there are hidden riches in marrying many men whom you might otherwise overlook. If you marry a man who gives you the freedom of choice as to whether you work or not, you have in essence just become a millionaire, even if your husband earns $30,000 per year!
“Do the math”: if you marry at age 30, you may be married for 40 or more years.
40 years x $30,000 per year = $1,200,000 – money that is being earned for you while you are busy raising a family and nurturing your life together. A husband who doesn’t insist that you work automatically makes you a millionaire!! You don’t have to be “rich” – to be rich! !
But what is happening today? Young women report all the time that guys are bringing this subject up on the first date! Before the cappuccino is cold, these men are telling women that any wife of theirs should expect to help bring home the bacon, even after they have children!
What is a guy like this really telling you?
He is saying loud and clear that to him, marriage is like a business.
If he takes on a partner, he expects to earn twice as much.
He is saying that the quality of life for his children is secondary to making sure there is extra money in his bank account.
He is saying that he wants to keep buying his “toys” more than he wants a wonderful, cozy life with his beloved wife and children!
Run, do not walk!
You are far better off remaining single than marrying a man who views marriage and family in this light. Keep searching until you find the man who truly understands the meaning of marriage and family.
These men are out there! !
Where can you find a man who wants a traditional family life, with whom you can raise beautiful children who have the best of both parents while growing up (instead of spending most of their time in school and daycare with thrown-together frozen meals and an exhausted mom and dad)?
The best place to find a man like this is in a church or synagogue.
And the best place to find churches with the most eligible men is in a larger city. However, you don’t have to move. You can meet men in reputable Christian or Jewish online dating services.
Have you seen the women who work full-time at demanding jobs while at the same time raising babies, toddlers, or school-aged children?
These women are stretched to the max. They spend from morning till night working both at their jobs and then at home taking care of their families.
If you should be so blessed as to find or to already have a man in your life who genuinely wants you to have the freedom of choice to stay home and take care of your family, you must never take him for granted.
If you are fortunate enough to marry a man who encourages you to stay home after your children are born, you must do your part to make it worthwhile for him! How can you do that? There are four important ways:
No yelling – no nagging – ever. On the contrary – build up your husband in every way you can.
Stay attractive and stay in shape. The best way to do that is to keep exercising.
Keep your home neat, uncluttered, and beautiful. It doesn’t have to be fancy to be beautiful. Less is more.
Never, and I mean never, get over your head in debt. If you need extra cash, find ways to make money. The old saying is true: where there is a will, there is a way!
A woman can make her own fortune with or without a man in her life. Women are doing it every day. You don’t need a man, rich or not, to complete your life. But if you decide it’s time to fall in love, be sure to make a wise decision in the area of money, and marry someone who is responsible with his earnings, and who is generous. (The most unsexy man in the world is the cheapskate.) You don’t need to deal with someone else’s debt collectors calling your home and a ruined credit report as a result of your wedding vows. You don’t need to be the only one who pays the bills while your man plays computer games, entertains buddies, and drinks beer all day.
Smart, responsible attitudes about money will result in long-term wealth and security at any income level. Marriage can be difficult under even the best of circumstances. Marry a man who adds to your life, rather than takes away from it, and then make him glad he married you. Then you have indeed married rich!

How to Manage Stress and Single Parenting

How to Manage Stress and Single Parenting

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Being a single parent is not easy. It is like doing two jobs in one sitting. Single parenting requires you to be an understanding mother or a tough and a providing father all at the same time. Stress and single parenting, therefore, works together, giving single mom and dad a terrible headache every single day.

Stress and single parenting are the usual topics in self-help books in parenting. Psychologists believe that raising children and even just a child is a very stressful task that requires ample management of emotional, behavioral and spiritual aspect of a single parent. Without the proper guide from self-help books, counsellors, group therapy, a single parent will deteriorate emotionally due to stress.

So how could you manage stress and single parenting? Psychologists say that in order for a parent to manage both stress and single parenting, he or she should enumerate things that brings him or her the stressors.

The universal stressors in single parenting for a female parent is how she could manage her household while she works her way to earn a living for 8 to 9 hours during the day. Self-help books on how to manage stress and single parenting gives single moms a good advice.

Firstly, if their job requires them to be out of the house in the usual office hours, she could hire a nanny during those times that she is away. But if she wants to have a quality time with her child or children, it would be for the best if she would leave her day job and establish a work from home business or job.

The internet isn’t there to merely entertain us. In fact, billions of dollars worth of business deals have been transacted through the internet. Of course, this isn’t just on sales transactions — sales on goods sold such as in Amazon or Ebay — but also those transactions that pay off a service using Paypal or other online payment mode.

Yes, believe it or don’t, many people, single parent or not, who earn a living through the internet not for selling goods but for offering and selling a service.

If you are a fast typist, you can offer typing services through ‘telecommuting.’ It is a secretarial job that doesn’t require a single parent to be ‘on-site’ or at the place where the office is located.

Some employers, especially those who are always on the go, hire ‘virtual assistant’ to help them with clerical or typing or secretarial jobs. Employers simply email the typing or research job to their virtual assistant with the instructions on how to do it and when to submit it, and the virtual assistant shall submit to the employer the typing and research job at the time the employer has specified.

The virtual assistant will be paid online via Paypal or Online Checks, every 15th and 30th of the month, or as agreed by both parties.

This way you can manage both stress and single parenting. Even if your two children are howling at each other, you can pacify them while you are waiting for the next job that your virtual boss will give you. Working online or telecommuting is one of the best ways that you can manage stress and single parenting.

As for single dads, the problem that they usually face is how to keep in-tune with his child or children’s feelings and emotional needs. This is the most usual cause of stress with a male doing the single parenting.

Of course, unlike a single mom, not all single dads want to work at home. They feel that this is not a very manly job. To psychologists, however, single dads doesn’t have that much liberty to think this way.

Single parenting is totally different to regular parenting (a household with a mother and a father). A single parent must adjust to the usual activities expected of a ‘regular’ parent. So, a single dad must accept the fact that he can’t be just like ‘any other dad’ and work his bottom from sunrise till night.

A single dad needs to be at the side of his children, like a mother. If he can’t accept this fact, he cannot possibly manage stress and single parenting.

The Right Time to Seek Counseling to Improve your Marriage

The Right Time to Seek Counseling to Improve your Marriage

Seeking help from marriage counselors is a good step in improving your marriage. This shows your sincerity in keeping the relationship together and to make it stronger. But this also shows that your marriage is on the rocks. Why seek counseling if the marriage is doing great?

Maybe the vow that you made together with your husband or wife in front of the church altar is not enough to keep your marriage out of trouble. This could be due to some uncontrollable circumstances, failure to address this problem is the reason why many married couples are now resorting to counseling., and if it doesn’t work, a divorce may be the last recourse.

Some people look down at the thought of seeking counseling. They feel that a third person could not fix what the two of them couldn’t. But getting a fresh perspective from an experienced person may just be the answer.

The Right Time

It would be advisable to start your marriage counseling on an early basis—preferably before you get married or early in the marriage, especially if you sense that the two of you are having communication problems with each other.

Do not treat counseling like a “sealant in the leakage”. Some people have misconceptions that it should only be considered if the situation will lead to divorce. Instead of seeing it in that point of view, it will be better if you will take counseling to enlighten and help you and your husband or wife develop a clear and honest communication and proper handling of your problems once you and your partner get involved in a marriage.

Improve your marriage in its best condition. It will not be good if the two of you will just get a marriage counselor just because you are planning to separate from each other. Instead, let your marriage counselor be your guide in shaping your relationship in the best possible shape there is. Your counselor is not the best solution to your problem—it is both of you that can fix it. It is your commitment and your dedication to the marriage.

Prayers to Save My Marriage

Prayers to Save My Marriage

According to spiritualism, the prayer is to discover and develop the divinity which can work a lot in every problem of life. It gives you emotional strength to fight with the problems. Can you believe that the prayers can help you to save your married life? Separation or divorce seems to be a simple term, but its effects on both the partners may be long-lasting. You may lose your economical, physical, emotional and social stability.

Divorce is also not good for the sake of the future of your children. Hence, when you feel that your marriage is in crisis and you find yourself helpless, you may start praying the god. You may ask the religious leaders about prayers to save my marriage.

The prayers may be useful to heal the relationships and save the troubled marriage. They can help to overcome the obstacles in your married life. When you come to know that your marriage is in trouble, you get mentally disturbed and terrified. Your life becomes stressful and you may feel helpless, lonely and frustrated. To cope up with this situation, you should be able to control your emotions and face the problem with great tolerance and patience. You will be able to overcome the stress and live peacefully with the help of prayers.

The prayers may help to improve your virtue of forgiveness and make your mind strong. If the problems in your married life are due to faithlessness of your partner, you will be able to forgive your partner. The prayers also help to improve your loving energy. If there is a lack of love in your married life, you will be able to create it with your ability to love. Once you are successful in developing love, other problems can be easily solved.

You may be doubtful about can I really get the benefit from the prayers to save my marriage. When you experience the problems in your marital relationships, it is the time to review your relationship with God. When your relationship with God is strong, it fills your heart with intense love and inner strength.

You may strengthen your relationship with God through prayer through small acts of kindness, serving less privileged members of your community and philanthropic acts. It prevents worsening of your problems and relationship with your partner. Keep aside some time for regularly offering the prayers along with your husband. You may combine the prayers with visualization and give thanks in advance.

Do you face the question of where to get the prayers to save my marriage? You may read the prayers from the religious and spiritual books that are available in numerous book-shops. You can get the information about the prayers from the religious leader. You may offer your prayers at the religious place or at your home. If your partner is not willing, you may find the prayer partner or do it alone.

Build up the emotional and spiritual strength within you and request the God by offering prayers to save my marriage.

How to Avoid Divorce

How to Avoid Divorce

Every marriage hits a rough spot occasionally. And while not every marriage should attempt to be salvaged, a great many more than are saved today should and can be through concerted efforts. So, the first step in avoiding divorce is recognizing that the fact that you have come to this point in your relationship is not unusual, but it does indicate that something must change if it is to survive. But before you go through a mental litany of everything that needs to change as justification for giving up, realize that there is help out there and if you are willing to put in the time and commitment, you can make your marriage work even when it seems that you and your partner have reached the end of the road.
Marriage Counselling
Marriage counselling can be a very effective instrument in putting a marriage that seems to be going down the divorce path back onto the right track. Counselling helps couples to identify the root of their marital problems and solve them with a little help from a professional counsellor trained in mediation. Finding an effective marriage counsellor, however, requires a bit of work on your part. Many counsellors will offer a free consultation. Ask for recommendations from friends, but in part you should call 10 or so counsellors, ask for their price packages ahead of time and then schedule consultations with the 3 or 4 that meet your pricing needs. Make sure that when you go into these consultations you grade the effectiveness on how BOTH you and your spouse feel about the individual.
Self Help
There are also many self-help tools available in the market today.
There are some excellent books and articles on how to make marriages work, how to re-ignite the spark in a relationship and how a few simple steps can bring back the love in a relationship that had turned hateful. Both partners can get a lot of inspiration, advice and ideas on how to make relationships work from such books and articles. You can even find help when you think there is infidelity in your marriage. There are books and articles out there, which tell you why people cheat or stray out of line and what you can do about it.
The common thread in all of these self help guides is communication and understanding. By making an effort to understand where your spouse is coming from, and them where you are, and then making compromises and communicating, most marital problems will become alleviated.
Resorts
Then there are many resorts that are specially designed to create an ambience which is conducive to romance. These vacation packages are easy to find and require only that you be on the look out. The point of these resorts is to reinvigorate a relationship by introducing some of the passion and spontaneity that over time can be watered down by obligations and daily responsibilities. These events attempt to eliminate outside stresses so that you can focus on your spouse, and in so doing rekindle the love you feel for one another.
All in all, if you are willing to put in your best efforts to stop your marriage from slipping away, there is now help at hand and you need not have to fight alone. By utilizing the tools of counsellors, self help and resorts you can go a long way to giving your marriage the best chance for survival. But beyond survival, these tools can help ensure you a happy lifelong relationship.

Living in Colorado Springs and Want to Save A Marriage?

Living in Colorado Springs and Want to Save A Marriage?

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Today, most people agree an importance of marriage and intend to save their marital relationships.
Many people are finding their marriage to be in trouble in the second most populous city of Colorado Springs in Colorado. The problems in married life may be due to absence of love, no sex, abusive partner, infertility, unfaithful partner, lack of communication and financial problems. Sometimes, these problems may be beyond the tolerance and the couples may wish to get a divorce.

It takes years to build a relationship but a simple mistake to break it at a fraction of a moment; you need not worry if you are looking to save a marriage, Colorado Springs has many counseling houses meant for resolving the problems in married life and maintaining the progressive interpersonal relationships

Whenever the conflicts in married life cross the tolerance limits, the couples try to resolve the problems before taking any harsh decision, as a separation is stressful for both the partners and their children. They first try to manage this problem by talking with each other or with their family or friends. If the problem still persists, the couples may go for the marriage counseling. If you are not from this city and wish to save a marriage, Colorado Springs city’s counseling houses offer even online facilities.

The couples and families in Colorado Springs often look for a licensed counselor to seek the counseling. The counseling bureaus in this city are well-known for their skilled and experienced staff. In order to save a marriage, Colorado Springs has numerous therapists, counselors and psychiatrists who offer confidential treatments, advice, support, stabilization services, case management, evaluation and responsive services.

They are with psychology background and are licensed by the state. While selecting the licensed counselor, you should keep in mind the background, psychology education, affiliations and experience of the counselor. The licensed counselors can be found in the community by searching in the local phone book or checking the online directory listings.

The counseling professionals can help the couples regarding the career, family services, marriage services, marriage help, health issues, mental health issues, related to divorce, depression, anger management and substance abuse.

Marriage counseling contributes a lot to prevent the divorce and maintain the healthy relationships by resolving the conflicts, improving the interpersonal relationships, overcoming the differences and reconstructing the marriage. Various counseling sessions are organized which may offer good opportunity to the couples to share their feelings and help to clear the misunderstanding.

The purpose of counseling involves resolving the problems in married life, sex therapy, couples therapy, relationship counseling and family therapy. It offers the opportunities for the personal growth, self-assessment as well as spiritual and emotional healing. Self-assessment helps to find out your own mistakes and solutions to correct them.

It also helps to find out the differences between the couples and ways to overcome them. Marriage counseling program offers professional help in areas such as assertiveness skills, controlling the anger, overcoming the differences and anxiety, improvement in the communication skills, conflict resolution skills and listening skills.

You would not have to go far if you want to take someone’s advice to save a marriage, Colorado Springs itself presents a variety of ways to get the proper guidance.

The Basics Of Marriage Counseling

The Basics Of Marriage Counseling

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Almost half of all marriages end in divorce.
That is why there is an increase in couples seeking marriage counseling. Nobody wants to think that the marriage they are in will end. Marriage counseling offers a way for couples to work thorough problems with an outside influence. Marriage counseling can help couples to rebuild a marriage that was on the way to divorce.

Marriage counseling is a type of therapy that helps married couples resolve problems they may be having in their marriage. Most often counseling is conducted with both partners present. However, sometimes there will be individual sessions depending on the couples needs. The basis for marriage counseling is research that has shown problems in a marriage are best solved through communication and working together. Marriage counseling usually lasts a short period of time, until the problems are resolved and the marriage is back on track and the couple can handle problems on their own. In a session the counselor will ask questions, listen and analyze problems. The counseling usually starts with an analysis of the marriage and its problems. Then the problems are worked through to an amicable conclusion.

Marriage counselors are trained in psychotherapy. They also have an understanding about families, how to understand client’s needs and problems. They also have training that allows them to help clients work through the problems to reach conclusions. All of this training lets them be able to identify underlying problems. A good marriage counselor will not make a client feel guilty or blame. They will teach clients to work through problems and get over bad feelings.

Marriage counseling can help couples open the lines of communication. Communication has been shown to be the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Couples with problems seek marriage counseling o get a better understanding of what has went wrong in their marriage, so they can once again have a string marriage.

Are Marriage Retreats The Way To Stop Your Divorce

Are Marriage Retreats The Way To Stop Your Divorce

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Marriage retreats are a good way to help give your marriage a tune up, but most people don’t even know they exist.
They may be just the thing to give your marriage a tune up, or to help save a foundering marriage.

So what are marriage retreats? Well, it’s basically where you take a weekend or even a week to get away from it all somewhere away from your home, staying with other couples and trained marriage counselors.

While you’re there, you’ll be spending time working intensely on your marriage with your spouse. What this does is give you a chance to get away from all the hustle and bustle of everyday life and get down to the business of your relationship.

This beneficial effect of marriage retreats should not be underestimated. The sad fact is that most people are far too busy to give their relationship the separate attention that it needs. Indeed, most of us only start thinking about our marriage in that way when we are already having problems.

After you are already having problems is probably the worst time to try and fix problems. Emotions are flaring, life is getting in the way, and you will find it very hard to do the work. The best time to solve problems is before the problems ever start happening.

This is where marriage retreats can really help. There are two big benefits to the retreat. One of them is that being away from all the distractions of life can give you a breather, time to think and time to just be together with each other. This alone can help your relationship.

The second benefit is that you’re in a situation where the whole point is to talk about your relationship. This is actually a lot harder to accomplish in real life than it sounds. Most of us are hesitant to have these kinds of discussions, because they can be awkward and painful.

But at marriage retreats, there are counselors and other couples there to speak with, and they will help guide and shelter you. This makes having those conversations easier and it gives you the benefit of having other points of views to help you see what is really going on in your relationship.

If you are already having problems with your relationship, then these marriage retreats can be an excellent way to stop your divorce. The time away from everything can be an excellent way to defuse the emotions that are preventing you from having the breakthrough you need, and having the help of professionals is always going to better than trying to just feel your way through it.

There are any number of varieties of retreats. The Christian retreats are probably the most common, but there are also plenty of retreats that focus on the secular side of things. All you need to do is find the right one for your relationship.

Marriage retreats are one of the best ways to help keep relationship going strong, but they are far from being the only option available to you. You can also find many guides and systems to help keep your marriage going strong.

Seeking Marriage Help in New York

Seeking Marriage Help in New York

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There are many different options available to manage the problems in your married life and to save your marriage. The problems in the married life may be because of lack of communication, absence of love, no sex, abusive partner, infertility, unfaithful partner and financial problems.

When these problems go beyond the limits of tolerance, the couple may start thinking about getting separated. However, divorce can affect personal and family life of both the partners. Hence, the couple first should try to find the ways to resolve the problems in married life and save the marriage.

When you try some options like talking with each other, talking with your friends and family and if you come to known that it does not work, then you may go for the marriage counseling. Marriage counseling is a form of therapy applied for conflict resolution which is generally carried out by the trained psychotherapist.

It plays a significant role in preventing the divorce and maintaining the healthy relationships by resolving the conflicts, improving the relationships, overcoming the differences and reconstructing your marriage. You need not have to go far to seek the advice to save a marriage, New York itself offers a variety of ways to get the proper guidance.

In order to save marriage, New York has numerous marriage-counseling bureaus spread in the city. Marriage counseling in New York offers empowering, creative solutions to the family and couples based on Imago Therapy to overcome anxieties and inhibitions in their struggle for great emotional intimacy. It tries at its best to prevent divorces and save marriages.

For those who wish to save marriage, New York City’s counseling houses have the superbly trained staff. The psychiatrists in the bureaus are extremely skilled and highly experienced and with intense knowledge in marriage counseling. It is very important to choose the right marriage counselor and couple therapist to get the successful outcome. He should be highly qualified and should have master’s degree in counseling or social work. He should have enough experience of marriage counseling.

The mission of marriage counseling is to resolve the problems in married life, sex therapy, couples therapy, relationship counseling and family therapy. The different forms of marriage counseling are effective when accompanied by the methods of natural psychotherapy and holistic concepts.

Marriage counseling bureaus in New York specialize in the fundamental issues of modern relationships including building and ending relationships, relationship problems, couples counseling and also pre-marital counseling. If you are not from this city and want to save marriage, New York City’s counseling bureaus offer the online facilities for you.

The marriage counselors take the genuine efforts to prevent the divorce by resolving the problems in married life and by rebuilding your relationships. They provide the effective tools such as relationship skills and communication skills to save the marriage. Various counseling sessions are held for the couples which offer good opportunity to the couples to share their feelings and help to clear the misunderstanding.

The counselor may not solve the problems in your marriage, but will help you to solve them yourself by making your marriage bond strong and keeping your relationships alive.

The effects of marriage counseling in New York are found to be wonderful. After seeking this counseling, many couples have been successful in resolving the conflicts in their married life and have got back to a happy married life.

Save Your Marriage Before It’s Too Late

Save Your Marriage Before It’s Too Late

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Everyone wants to have a happy marriage. A happy marriage is one of the finest things life can offer. But after some time different kinds of problems appear in our life. It is true that many people give up on a marriage too soon, and too many marriages end up being weighted down by unresolved difficulties.

What happens if none of those things from the beginning of your relationship are happening any more such as: the little favors nowadays, cook your favorite meal, buy you something special; those little things that showed you she cares about you. Knowing that you may be losing the person you love is hard on anyone. Like most people in your situation you are probably feeling scared and confused, not knowing what to do next. If you feel that your marriage is crisis, don’t show your partner that you’re panicking; try to keep calm and in control your emotions.

Both of you need to remember that no matter how bleak things seem, it is possible for many marriages to get back on course, but both husband and wife should be willing to cooperate. The important thing is to stay calm and to know what to avoid and what to aim for to make relationship work. You can save your marriage even if your partner wants a separation, she asks for divorce, or doesn’t love you anymore. But to stop divorce you need to avoid doing what hurts your relationship, knowing that there’s always a hope to save your marriage.

Jealousy is one of the reasons why most people get divorce, but is not the only one. If she caught you with infidelity and that’s why she wants to get divorce, the hardest thing you will need to do is to rebuild trust in your relationship: always be on time home, do what you say you do and be honest. Also, never lie to your spouse again, communicate clearly all the time, take time to reassure your spouse if she feels insecure, show her affection on regular basis and also be patient with her.

As I said there are many other reasons why people get divorce. This is usually a big mistake so try first to do all the sacrifices that are necessary to save your marriage.

-first and the most important is to identify your problems; take an honest look at the relationship and determine what the problems are; truly express what is disturbing you in, as much details as possible; look for solutions rather that blaming your partner

-if you are guilty for this situation, show her your companion, respect and affection; everyday remind her how much you love her and put meaning from the heart into those words

-start doing things that were usually done when both were still in loved and married

-express your feelings, communicate your feelings honestly and openly as you can

-establish open dialog and begin to compromise and heal; discuss about your feelings and come to an agreement about what you feel the relationship needs

-also you have to learn to listen as well; the things that are brought up should be treated as guides so that the couple will learn how to respect each other’s feelings and points of view; she may talk about what she is feeling regarding the relationship

-you have to work hard to understand and change what is bothering your partner in the relationship; even if she still loves you, she may see some persistent problems in you, and that’s why she may have lost hope for the relationship because of them; you have to understand better your partner’s perception of these problems

-if you are getting stale on your sex life, talk to each other, spend more time alone just the two of you, go on a vacation

-open yourself to the fact that any issue can be understood and interpreted in a variety of ways, otherwise you will continue to stay in a rut

-think about the ways you contribute to the situation

-learn to internalize and understand that your partner is not you; both have to find ways to empathize with the other’s point of view

-appreciate the value of the other’s experience in the way that is different than yours

-don’t allow old negative behavior patterns to swamp the present moment

-learn to forgive and forget; learn to forget anything and accept one another; bringing up the past will not save the marriage; one must learn to forgive the spouse and forget all the mistakes from the past

-seek both for a solution; remember that you are two different people; is not about who is wining here, it’s about respect, intimacy, growth and emergence

-set goals to work as a couple, such as: to communicate without arguing, to attempt to do things as a couple, to find an end to your problems, and also write down your feelings and allow the other to read them

-last but not at least, be patient; your marital problems did not crop up overnight and they will not be healed overnight; discuss all the emotions that you both feel until you are centered and ready to begin anew

So, if you have some problems in your marriage, wait first to see if that marriage can be saved, don’t be hurry to get divorced. Always have to think positive, that there is a hope to save your marriage no matter how many problems appear in your life. And remember that to have lasting satisfaction you need to know how to keep love and good feelings alive.